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Dear Stressed Ladies,

I have done it.  I have reached a mental plateau which is the result of too much stress in one’s life.  This plateau invokes feelings of laziness, tiredness, hunger, and a looming lack of motivation.  Unfortunately said plateau does little to reduce the stress, but it does allow me to somewhat rejeuvenate and thereby be better able to tackle the stress. 

I assume you are wondering why all the stress.  The top six stressor areas in life are generally considered to be: relationships, finances, health, career, safety, and home.  I have at least one major event in almost each of these areas.  However, before I elaborate, I feel inclined to remind you that stress is not always negative.  Much of the current stress in my life is actually quite positive, there’s just a lot of it.

Relationships: For the first part of the year, I was planning my wedding and was married just three months ago, so we continue to try andcombine two separate and different lives into one new one.  I also live close to my family, who had another wedding to plan, organize, and execute in a short time of three months.  Thankfully all went off beautifully yesterday.

Finances: In conjuction with my recent marriage came the chore of combining finances, budgeting, and consulting with a partner on most purchases.  We will also be doubling our income shortly, but will be tight on cash until the new paychecks start flowing (a month away).

Career: I recently obtained a new position teaching third grade.  The school is great and the people I work with are an amazing help.  But there was a classroom to set up, procedures to implement, students to get to know, and daily lesson planning to complete.

Home: Three months of marriage and we have already moved.  I had just finished decorating our apartment and unpacking all of my belongings, when I was offered the new job.  Because I don’t enjoy commuting, we quickly began seraching for a new place near my school.  We found one and moved in a few weeks ago, but there are still boxes to unpack, curtains to hang, and pictures to place.  Not to mention trying to re-figure all of the household duties (like cooking and cleaning) that still need to be accomplished despite both parties working full-time during the day.

Health: This past week my husband came down with a terrible cold and I was terrified of catching it.  Since it was the first week of school, I could not afford to get sick.  Thankfully I seem to have avoided this particular bug, but still had to nurse him back to health as much as I could.  Besides, first year teachers are known for always being sick due to the large number of illnesses and bacteria they are exposed to each day.  Something to look forward to.

Safety: I think I’m actually doing okay in this particular area.  Perhaps I just have so much else going on that I don’t have time to worry about my husband commuting to work each day (this may change once snow begins to fall) or the interesting people I am bound to meet as I begin busing home from work.

As I said, all of this stress is the result of good things happening in my life.  I have just gone from being an independent, single, young woman with a boring, part-time job to being a full-time, salaried employee and housewife in a new area within the last three months.  I am looking forward to finding my routine and being able to breathe once more!


Mrs. Tilney


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My dearest girl,

Serenity?  Anyone?!

Serenity? Anyone?!

Again I’m in awe of your decision to be wed in May and again I offer my services because if you are as stressed as I am (and I imagine you are MUCH more) you deserve accolades to rival His Grace the Duke of Wellington!  I had no idea so much work went in to planning an event such as this and my mother, godmother, future-mother-in-law, and well meaning friends are forever alerting me to things I have absolutely forgotten to think of/never heard of before in my life.  Please write back as soon as you may and get my mind of this awful process by diverting me with stories about yours own, write explicitly as to interfering mothers for amusement and flowers for inspiration.  I meet again with my florist this weekend and am utterly at a loss!

More aggravating are the thoughts of our future maintenance since we will be living off my fortune until he should come into his own.  How provoking to be concerned not only with planning a wedding while one’s family is in Suffolk and one’s future is in doubt.  Mr. Rivenhall and I have found excellent lodging but we must wait to find out whether or not it will be made available to us.

I am the most impatient creature alive, as well you know.  And now I have to sit and wait.  And wait.  It’s the anticipation that annoys me, you understand.

Your Pathetically,
Miss Kirk

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