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Dear Stressed Ladies,

I have done it.  I have reached a mental plateau which is the result of too much stress in one’s life.  This plateau invokes feelings of laziness, tiredness, hunger, and a looming lack of motivation.  Unfortunately said plateau does little to reduce the stress, but it does allow me to somewhat rejeuvenate and thereby be better able to tackle the stress. 

I assume you are wondering why all the stress.  The top six stressor areas in life are generally considered to be: relationships, finances, health, career, safety, and home.  I have at least one major event in almost each of these areas.  However, before I elaborate, I feel inclined to remind you that stress is not always negative.  Much of the current stress in my life is actually quite positive, there’s just a lot of it.

Relationships: For the first part of the year, I was planning my wedding and was married just three months ago, so we continue to try andcombine two separate and different lives into one new one.  I also live close to my family, who had another wedding to plan, organize, and execute in a short time of three months.  Thankfully all went off beautifully yesterday.

Finances: In conjuction with my recent marriage came the chore of combining finances, budgeting, and consulting with a partner on most purchases.  We will also be doubling our income shortly, but will be tight on cash until the new paychecks start flowing (a month away).

Career: I recently obtained a new position teaching third grade.  The school is great and the people I work with are an amazing help.  But there was a classroom to set up, procedures to implement, students to get to know, and daily lesson planning to complete.

Home: Three months of marriage and we have already moved.  I had just finished decorating our apartment and unpacking all of my belongings, when I was offered the new job.  Because I don’t enjoy commuting, we quickly began seraching for a new place near my school.  We found one and moved in a few weeks ago, but there are still boxes to unpack, curtains to hang, and pictures to place.  Not to mention trying to re-figure all of the household duties (like cooking and cleaning) that still need to be accomplished despite both parties working full-time during the day.

Health: This past week my husband came down with a terrible cold and I was terrified of catching it.  Since it was the first week of school, I could not afford to get sick.  Thankfully I seem to have avoided this particular bug, but still had to nurse him back to health as much as I could.  Besides, first year teachers are known for always being sick due to the large number of illnesses and bacteria they are exposed to each day.  Something to look forward to.

Safety: I think I’m actually doing okay in this particular area.  Perhaps I just have so much else going on that I don’t have time to worry about my husband commuting to work each day (this may change once snow begins to fall) or the interesting people I am bound to meet as I begin busing home from work.

As I said, all of this stress is the result of good things happening in my life.  I have just gone from being an independent, single, young woman with a boring, part-time job to being a full-time, salaried employee and housewife in a new area within the last three months.  I am looking forward to finding my routine and being able to breathe once more!


Mrs. Tilney


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How curious to find oneself married and at the outside of one’s acquaintance! I confess, it comes as a surprise to me.

In my early years, my social world was never one which would easily be described as large; however, in later years it has seemed to grow in away most pleasing. How very vexing to find myself once again a solitary creature! Entering my present state of bliss has, unfortunately, been quite detrimental to my place in society, I fear.  I am quite curious as to the cause of my being such a pariah amongst those I once called friends. My thoughts revolve around two likely causes–

Those of my acquaintance are likely to think me quite busy enough, after considering my relocation and many frustrations regarding the domestic sphere. The duties of running a household are enough to make any lady quite exhausted, and perhaps those of my friends who consider my company pleasant wish to not tax my time with what they fear may be seen more as obligation than as pleasure.

Where I once called upon friends and neighbors, I now merely go about my various occupations, not remembering that friendship must not onlybe enjoyed, but instigated and maintained by ALL principals as often as possible. My shameful neglect of my friendships is now serving to harm only myself, as all of my acquaintance are thoroughly delightful creatures who, unlike myself, make new friends quite easily. The glitter and thrill of new society has, I’m afraid, driven all thoughts of myself from their minds.

In either case, my present state is not to be envied. The solution presents itself quite handily, but is, I’m afraid, easier spoken of than acted upon. It seems I must entertain. Surely if I achieve the cultivation of a habit of hosting various soirees, evening parties, card parties, and other such fashionable gatherings, those invited will be delighted to return the favor of an invitation to pleasant society, and my current dilemma will come to an end. Happily, a venue for hosting fashionable society is presently at my command, as I have within the past week or two completed some improvements upon my westdrawing room which put the room much at an advantage. Unfortunately, my plans all depend on the social availability of my dear Mr. Elliot, which, due to his strong inclination to study the law, I find at present sorely lacking.

My dears, wish me luck!

I remain, determinedly,Yours, etc.
Mrs. Elliot

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